Sometimes Jakey gets fussy in the car, and since I can't really do anything for him without letting go of the wheel, my bad-parent solution tends to be to just ignore him if we're almost home. Lara's good-sister solution, on the other hand, is to start talking to him in a voice so soft and full of tenderness that I can't believe it's coming from a four year-old (almost!) child. "It's ok, Jakey, don't cry. Here, do you want your butterfly? I'll give you your butterfly toy. Shhh, it's ok. We're almost there, and then we'll go home and Mommy will feed you, and then you'll be happy."